Having chosen the second button, you know yourself somewhat better. You have an idea of your masculinity on personal level. A confident masculinity has access to useful communication skills since anyone without them feels a tremendous powerlessness to effectively communicate in our world. Without skills only violence and confusion are available to you, and that may create exceptional pain in your life.
Powerlessness is the place of frustration for an untrained person who experiences an inability to resolve problems peacefully-all that frustration goes somewhere, and often it comes out in fists. Non-Violent Communication skills can give you the ability to calmly resolve deeply felt emotional differences. It can be used in many areas of your life. Below is a diagram of the simple four step process. The left side is to be able to speak clearly; and the right side is to be able to listen accurately. Give them a try.
The diagram is below: Note: The skill is relatively easy to learn but it will require practice and determination to use when involved in a hot argument or discussion. Use it and prove to yourself its value. You could save much more than your temper.
Below is a video of the developer of NVC (Marshall Rosenberg) describing his vison and how he reaches even the angriest of people.
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